> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # 👓 Stuff #185 - festina lente! - URL: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/stuff-185-festina-lente/ - Published: 2024-04-29T04:30:26.000Z - Updated: 2024-04-29T04:30:25.000Z - Description: Level up your feedback skills, stay curious and committed and find ways to be happier. Learn about festina lente, some important numbers and weird things on wikipedia and Google Maps. - Author: Matt - Tags: Newsletter *A big welcome to new readers this week, I'm very pleased to meet you!* My goal is to help you get the best out of yourself. Each week, I seek out great content to support **our** personal growth. I’ll couple that with some links that I know you’ll find interesting AND my r[egular monthly mixtape](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/24-april-2024/). Elsewhere, you can find my [daily notes here](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/tag/daily-notes/), and I’m [posting on Threads](https://www.threads.net/@matt.rutherford?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) as well. Thanks for joining me - now, onto the list! ![upload in progress, 0](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2023/05/mattsig_personal-Background-Removed-1.png) --- **Monday Motivation**. Let this week be the one where you level up your feedback game. The Situation, Behaviour, Impact framework is a simple to use model that can help you deliver high quality feedback to anyone. [Mastering Feedback with the SBI model](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/mastering-feedback-with-the-situation-behavior-impact-model/) has practical guidance AND examples of how to use this powerful tool.. **Words**. [27 words that you should never use to describe yourself.](https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/27-words-you-should-never-use-to-describe-yourself.html?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) We all know that words are powerful, but using these ones can have a negative impact. **Self-Motivation.** [How to stay curious and committed](https://nesslabs.com/self-motivation-toolkit?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk), a self-motivation toolkit from the excellent Ness Labs. The explanation of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation came up this week at work, and is a useful framework for understanding yourself, as well as others. **Interviews.** [How to do a practice interview that actually works.](https://www.themuse.com/advice/how-to-do-a-practice-interview-thatll-actually-help-you?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) I’ve done lots of practice interviews for people, and helped them refine skills ahead of the day. These are great tips to bear in mind. **Happiness.** I think I’m happier than I’ve ever been in life, many of the reasons are included [in this excellent article from Scott Young.](https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2024/04/23/7-rules-happiness/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) I also like the points raised in [this interview with a happiness expert](https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/5-lessons-from-a-conversation-with-a-world-renowned-happiness-expert?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Which [kind of happiness](https://qz.com/1716835/eleven-habits-of-supremely-happy-people?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) are you? **Positivity.** [How changing your mindset could change your life.](https://www.truity.com/blog/power-positivity-how-changing-your-mindset-could-change-your-life?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Some sensible, expert backed advice on ways to change your outlook. ✍️ ****Random Journal Prompt:** What are some ways you can improve your current relationships? [Over 550 more journal prompts here](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/tag/journal-prompts/). ![assorted numbers photography](https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1502570149819-b2260483d302?crop=entropy&cs=tinysrgb&fit=max&fm=jpg&ixid=M3wxMTc3M3wwfDF8c2VhcmNofDJ8fG51bWJlcnN8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzE0MTU2MjMwfDA&ixlib=rb-4.0.3&q=80&w=2000) Photo by [Nick Hillier](https://unsplash.com/@nhillier?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) / [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/?utm%5Fsource=ghost&utm%5Fmedium=referral&utm%5Fcampaign=api-credit) **Life.** Life doesn’t have to be 100% grind.[ Learn how to have a softer life, with practical advice on finding a new balance.](https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/how-to-have-a-soft-life?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) At the very least, learn about ‘[festina lente](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Festina%5Flente?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk#:~:text=Festina%20lente%20%28Classical%20Latin%3A%20%5B,haste%2C%20less%20speed%22%29.)’, the [Roman Emperor art of making haste, slowly. ](https://bigthink.com/the-learning-curve/festina-lente/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) **Numbers.** [A searchable database of the important numbers from Biology.](https://bionumbers.hms.harvard.edu/Search.aspx?task=searchbypop&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Including the 0.1second eye-blink, and the average number of hairs on a human head. **Slang.** When i was a child, [I loved this dictionary of slang](https://www.oxfordreference.com/display/10.1093/acref/9780199543700.001.0001/acref-9780199543700?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) (and naughty words). Now, someone has put together [this beautiful site that documents English language slang.](https://greensdictofslang.com/browse/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) **Surfing.** [The elusive 100ft wave.](https://nicenews.com/environment/cortes-bank-surfers-ride-enormous-wave-pacific-ocean/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Awesome video of the best surfing spot in the world. **Music**. [Listen to Wikipedia make sweet music](http://listen.hatnote.com/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). A simple site that plays a tone every time that a wikipedia edit is made. Odder and more beautiful than it seems. **Finally**. [Weird things that have been captured on Google Maps.](https://9-eyes.com/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) No game here, just strange things that have happened by the side of the road. 🎵 My mammoth 2024 playlist has fantastic tunes added every day. [You can follow along here.](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1WDYisQq2nyIS2pqqvh8gr?si=8d9f596fc62f4e7b&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) ### 🔈 Stuff to Listen to... ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2024/04/records-3.jpeg) 🎧 This week's aural treat is my [monthly mixtape](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/tag/mixtape/), comprised of tunes that have cross my radar during April. I've got some classic rocksteady ska, some soul classics and tunes fresh from the dancefloor. I couple it with some Dublin indie rock, Ethiopian jazz grooves from Belgium and a slice of experimental Austrian film music. [Listen to 'Stuff Mixtape #24' here](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/17wdAf8hEpNg3nZWXuy5MS?si=25cffadc115a4d79&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) ### Stuff Someone Said (feel free to share) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2024/04/Stuff-185-Header-1.png)