> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # 👓 Stuff #160 - happiness is 70 years old... - URL: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/stuff-160/ - Published: 2023-10-23T04:52:07.000Z - Updated: 2023-10-23T12:11:39.000Z - Description: I'm looking at overthinking, ways to support your team, rules for a good life and how to say no. We'll also play a fun keyboard game. - Author: Matt - Tags: Newsletter Hey, Matt here. Welcome to a new week AND to the new readers since[ last issue](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/stuff-159/). A reminder that you can find me [on the web](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/) and on [Threads.](https://www.threads.net/@matt.rutherford?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Thanks for joining me - now, onto the good stuff! ![upload in progress, 0](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2023/05/mattsig_personal-Background-Removed-1.png) --- **The news.** I hope that you are keeping safe and well with all the current news from Israel and Palestine. [Here’s how to support your team members affected by the situation.](https://openup.com/business/blog/how-to-support-employees-current-events/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) **Overthinking.** Is Analysis Paralysis holding you back? [Here are some practical tips that will help you stop overthinking things. ](https://www.self.com/story/three-things-analysis-paralysis?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) ([Self](https://www.self.com/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)) **Bullshit. [Why do so many people think that their job is useless?](https://psyche.co/ideas/why-do-so-many-people-think-they-are-in-a-bullshit-job?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)** And how harmful is it to see things that way? ([Psyche](https://psyche.co/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)) **Philosophy. [41 short rules for a good life from some of the greatest minds.](https://hive.com/blog/rules-for-a-good-life-from-influential-philosophers/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)** #10 really resonates for me. (Hive) **Health.** [The surprising ways your mind influences your health. ](https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the%5Fsurprising%5Fways%5Fyour%5Fmind%5Finfluences%5Fyour%5Fhealth?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) See also, the excellent book - [The body keeps the score. ](https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) **No.** It’s a tiny word, but it can be difficult to say. **[These tips and tricks will help you. ](https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-stop-people-pleasing-by-learning-to-say-no??ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)** **Happiness.** Apparently [the sweet spot for happiness](https://www.fatherly.com/health/surprising-age-happiest-study-mid-life-later-life?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) is about 70 years old. [Fatherly](https://www.fatherly.com/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). ✍️ ****Journal Prompt:** What's a recent scenario where you were anxious and it turned out fine? ([More prompts here](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/tag/journal-prompts/)) --- ![silhouette photo of person holding smartphone](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2023/10/photo-1423784346385-c1d4dac9893a.jpeg) Photo by [Gilles Lambert](https://unsplash.com/@gilleslambert?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) / [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/?utm%5Fsource=ghost&utm%5Fmedium=referral&utm%5Fcampaign=api-credit) **Nomophobia.** The symptoms are real, trembling, disorientation and changes to your breathing. [It’s no mobile phone phobia. ](https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2023/sep/11/lost-your-phone-and-feel-your-lifes-falling-apart-youve-got-nomophobia?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) **Music.** [I’ve posted this before somewhere, but it is a great resource. ](https://everynoise.com/engenremap.html?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Every Noise at once lists all the musical genres, input your favourite artists and find out who orbits them. You can even click through and get a playlist of that sub-genre. **Free books.** [Openstax has free reference and textbooks](https://openstax.org/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) from across a wide range of subjects. Great resource for lifelong learners. **Asleep. [This new book of photography portraits captures people as they sleep.](https://www.wallpaper.com/art/photography/dorothy-sing-zhang-like-someone-alive-photo-book-captures-subjects-asleep?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)** Caution, there is a bum in one of these pictures. **Finally**. [Qwertytiles](https://qwertytiles.github.io/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). I’m ashamed to say I was very poor at this. A typing game inspired by piano tiles. 🎶 A reminder that every day I add to my [mammoth 2023 highs playlist.](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3nKbhvL8ZbH346FrxFkQwW?si=ed416af1341e4842&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) The list is now over 290 tracks long, everyone a banger! --- ### 🔈 Stuff to Listen to... ![SAY SHE SHE - Silver – Colemine Records](https://www.coleminerecords.com/cdn/shop/files/ScreenShot2023-07-24at1.40.20PM_1024x.png?v=1690220444) 🎧 This week, my aural treat is quite special. Say She She are a soulful, female led band from Brooklyn and London and their latest album 'Silver' is a fantastic listen. Firmly recalling the soul and disco sounds of the late 70's, this album was recorded 'live' onto tape and has a warm, analog sound alongside some very cool and danceable tunes. I love this work, which would grace any dancefloor - but also is worth prolonged listening. Highly recommended album. [Listen to Silver by Say She She on Spotify here... ](https://open.spotify.com/album/043vgwukOxX7bcL4VuMX10?si=JivnSzZLQzWs8KES9GE05Q&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) > **Stuff someone said.** > “To get born, your body makes a pact with death, and from that moment, all it tries to do is cheat’ > [**Louise Gluck**](https://voetica.com/poem/9056?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk)