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# #315 - When your values disagree with each other
- URL: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/315-when-your-values-disagree/
- Published: 2026-11-02T06:00:00.000Z
- Updated: 2026-11-02T05:59:59.000Z
- Description: Right against wrong resolves quickly. Right against right can run for months.
- Author: Matt
- Tags: Newsletter

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##### STUFF I'VE WRITTEN

- [When your values disagree with each other](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/when-your-values-disagree/). The decision you keep circling is two of your own values, pulling opposite ways.
- From the Archive: [The Hidden Cost of Keeping Your Options Open](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/the-hidden-cost-of-keeping-your-options-open/). Patience without a plan is just waiting with better branding.

##### STUFF I'M READING

- [The tool is fine. The brief was bad](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/sanakay%5Fim-noticing-something-interesting-i-shouldve-activity-7520812932637814784-bjwv?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Sana Khalid on why the managers who get the most out of AI are the ones who could already brief a person. A vague ask gets a vague answer either way.
- [Are great teams less productive?](https://www.library.hbs.edu/working-knowledge/are-great-teams-less-productive?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Amy Edmondson found the best-led hospital teams logged more errors, because they were the ones willing to admit them.
- [What it takes to build the life you actually want](https://ryanholiday.net/what-it-takes-to-build-the-life-you-actually-want?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Decide where the finish line is, then stop. Ryan Holiday on refusing to expand his bookshop.
- [Ian Rankin on why he writes](https://www.positive.news/lifestyle/arts/writing-is-a-way-of-dealing-with-things-ian-rankin/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). He hands his biggest worries to a fictional character and lets them do the fretting.
- [Why making friends as an adult is so hard](https://xtramagazine.com/culture/books/the-politics-of-lonely-lee-arden-284324?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Lee Arden says it is housing, work and money, not you, and that friends deserve the obligations we save for family.
- [Middle management roles are also a trap](https://lethain.com/middle-management-roles-were-also-a-trap?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Will Larson on why the skills executives need grow better as a line manager than in the middle layer.

##### STUFF I'M LINKING

- [Bookpile](https://bookpile.org/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Look up any book and see where to buy, borrow or track it. Not one affiliate link anywhere.
- Fleeting. [Play a fake twelve minute meeting on speaker so nobody interrupts you.](https://iminafleeting.com/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Workplace self-defence.

**Finally.** [Wonderhop](https://wonderhop.io/en/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Four daily games, seven questions each. Give the answer everyone gives, or the one nobody does.

****BELOW THE FOLD**  
  
****This week:** [Updates from the last seven days](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/weeknote/) and [This Week I Learned](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/twil-144-an-offer-i-couldnt-refuse/) the best-selling book of the year I was born.   
  
****Journal prompt:** Which of my two competing values have I been putting first, and does the person affected know? [Start writing](https://startwriting.now/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk).  
  
****Work with me:** I coach people at turning points in their career, from their first team to the leadership table. Every engagement starts with a 30 minute Discovery Session. [Book one here](https://mattrutherfordcoaching.com/?utm%5Fsource=newsletter&utm%5Fmedium=below-the-fold).  
  
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