> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # #207 - Do it your way! - URL: https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/207-do-it-your-way/ - Published: 2024-09-30T04:30:38.000Z - Updated: 2024-09-30T04:30:37.000Z - Description: Some advice to help you update your career plan and to balance your work-life. I look at creating psychological safety at work and ways to be the grey stone at work. There are some life shortcuts that work and finally, a great word game. - Author: Matt - Tags: Newsletter ### The Stuff that MattRs **Monday Motivation.** Let this week be the one where you [refresh your career plan.](https://amivora.substack.com/p/5-tips-to-plan-my-career-like-i-plan) I like the simplicity of this five-step approach to treating your career plan like a product plan. For more guidance on setting goals for the next steps, [I’ve got you covered.](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/five-proven-tips-for-achieving-personal-and-career-success/) **Worklife**. Next time you think about checking your emails after work, [take a read of this article,](https://theconversation.com/responding-to-work-emails-after-hours-contributes-to-burnout-hostility-229461?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) and put the phone away! **Safety**. [The four stages of psychological safety.](https://www.leaderfactor.com/learn/four-stages-of-psychological-safety?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) A practical guide for leaders and managers. **Success**. [Do it your way.](https://collabfund.com/blog/your-way-is-the-only-way/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) The only real measure of success that matters is whether you get what you want out of life. *Finding a way to have fun, whilst you are doing the best work of your life is a grail worth fighting for.* **Drama**. [A great way to deal with sticky situations at work](https://www.truity.com/blog/gray-rock-communication-method-what-it-and-how-can-it-save-your-sanity-work?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). **Productivity**. [How having a work soundtrack can boost your productivity.](https://www.fastcompany.com/91121320/why-having-a-soundtrack-at-work-could-boost-your-productivity?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) My FlowStuff playlist has over [500 tracks that will keep you in the right mindset.](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2rXoop87aCB6oe1HBERtyn?si=e50aa676291e454f&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) ✍️ ****Random Journal Prompt:** Describe a time you stood up for something you believe in. [From my prompts for Self-Understanding.](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/journal-prompts-self-understanding/) ****Bonus Stuff.** [Try my 30 day Journalling Challenge](https://www.mattrutherford.co.uk/journalling/). ![graphical user interface](https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1660208030414-8461e1cc68da?crop=entropy&cs=tinysrgb&fit=max&fm=jpg&ixid=M3wxMTc3M3wwfDF8c2VhcmNofDExfHxzaG9ydGN1dHN8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzI3NjI1Njg0fDA&ixlib=rb-4.0.3&q=80&w=2000) Photo by [ilgmyzin](https://unsplash.com/@ilgmyzin?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) / [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/?utm%5Fsource=ghost&utm%5Fmedium=referral&utm%5Fcampaign=api-credit) **F\*cks.** [How to stop giving a f\*ck what anyone thinks.](https://www.johnsuder.blog/how-to-stop-giving-a-fck-what-anyone-thinks/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) *Something that I have been working on over the last few years.* Some great advice in here. #2 and #4 are strong advice. **Habits**. [Thirty short habits of the top 10%.](https://open.substack.com/pub/postanly/p/30-short-habits-of-the-top-10) Number 6 and number 29 resonate with me. **Shortcuts**. [Seven life shortcuts that actually work.](https://www.alexmathers.net/blog/7-life-shortcuts-most-people-rarely-consider-that-actually-work?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) An excellent list of shortcuts that anyone can get behind. Simple and precise. **Social.** A [psychologists advice on social media usage](https://psyche.co/ideas/a-psychologists-tips-for-getting-a-grip-on-your-social-media-use?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). Practical advice from a professional on managing your scrolling. I really like the advice about setting specific times that you can use social media, and being more mindful about why. *Bonus Stuff:* [*How social media fasting could help your mental health.*](https://om.co/2024/07/30/intermittent-social-media-fasting/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) **Self**. [Why being narcissistic can be a useful tool sometimes.](https://www.truity.com/blog/narcissism-gets-bad-rap-little-me-focus-can-do-you-good?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) Having a little more focus on yourself can do you some good. **Finally**. [Alphaguess](https://alphaguess.com/?ref=mattrutherford.co.uk). A simple daily game, guess an English word until you find it in the alphabet. I took 17 guesses to find ‘spend’ 🎵 Have you tried ****FlowStuff**? It's my ever growing and changing playlist of music for concentration and relaxation. 35 hours of mostly beatless and wordless music. [You can follow along here.](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2rXoop87aCB6oe1HBERtyn?si=f38e9657e468481c&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) ### 🔈 Stuff to Listen to... ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2024/09/image-2.png) 🎧 This week, my musical recommendation is a deeper cut, from 1972\. I heard about the eponymous album by Zulema in a blog post about melancholy music and had a listen to this amazing album. Zulema was a disco and R&B singer from Florida, and this self-titled album was her debut, released on Sussex records. I love the vocals on this, deeply soulful and in places fitting the melancholy label. Its a terrific recall to era of real soul music. Recommended. [Listen to Zulema by Zulema here](https://open.spotify.com/album/0Bqf5ZYec9pBPcQbMuZB9V?si=e7OnMZHKT026RQt-S-PDBg&ref=mattrutherford.co.uk) ### Stuff Someone Said (feel free to share) ![](https://storage.ghost.io/c/c2/2e/c22ecd6b-9412-4701-b914-97051141e207/content/images/2024/09/Stuff-207-1.png)